Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband?
Lizzie Damilola Blackburn
Yinka Oladeji is a thirty-one-year-old, Oxford-educated British Nigerian woman with a good job, close friends, and a loving—but rather intrusive—family. There is just one thing everyone seems to think is missing from her life: a husband. Her Nigerian mother and aunties constantly question her relationship status, while her friends believe she needs to move on from her ex and reconsider her traditional views on love.
Although Yinka has always believed that love will arrive when the time is right, her cousin Rachel’s engagement prompts her to take matters into her own hands. Determined to find a date for Rachel’s wedding, she launches Operation Find a Date, complete with spreadsheets, carefully calculated strategies, and the help of her best friend. But as she navigates the dating scene, Yinka begins to question whether changing herself to meet other people’s expectations will really bring her happiness.
Through Yinka’s romantic misadventures, Blackburn explores the pressures placed on unmarried women, the complexities of navigating British and Nigerian cultural expectations, and the influence of colourism on self-esteem and relationships. With humour and warmth, the novel examines the tension between family loyalty and personal independence, ultimately asking whether finding love begins with finding someone else—or learning to accept yourself.
Nigeria
2022